Over the past few months, I have noticed something interesting. It appears that there are a few times in life where people want to know every little detail of your life. These moments are when one gets engaged, when planning for a wedding and when one is pregnant. Apparently, these are moments that everyone has to know every tiny little detail about. However, I would like to propose a different model for these times in life; I believe it is time to put people in our lives on information diets.
I believe in being nice to everyone, however, since getting engaged as joyously discussed in my previous blog post I have found that people love to know my business. Before I was engaged to my fiance, Michaela people simply were not interested in what I had going on. Even now people are not interested in what I have going on,
rather they are interested in what our planes are for the wedding, when are we thinking of having children, where will we live. Lots of these questions we have answers for, others we do not. I am beginning to get fed up with it all as there are some things that I want to keep a surprise for the wedding day. Also, the two of us are both graduating at the end of next year, and we literally have to work out how to operate in the adult world, which is a very scary prospect for two people in their early 20s to have to work out.
I realise what I said above sounds very selfish. However, in life, there are moments that being selfish is allowed. The wedding day will be a celebration of two families coming together, yet I want my beautiful fiance and me to be able to enjoy the day without the pressure of pleasing everyone and having every single person under the son knowing all of our business. This has resulted in me wanting to put people on information diets. By this, I mean that I want to only tell people the essential details. When asked where we have our wedding I just want to respond with “we have found a beautiful location, you will love it.” People want more.
Why do people want more? I believe that this is a symptom of the society we live in. Our society is becoming more consumeristic every day, everything is available to us inside of a few taps and swipes, we consume information online at a rapid pace, and everyone seems to know everyone’s business. I can find out everything about a person just by stalking their facebook and Instagram profiles. I have reached a point where I want to put myself on an information diet. I want to stop knowing everyone’s business. I want to concern myself with the here and now. Focus on building a life for myself and my fiance. I want to focus on my studies and stop being so concerned with everyone else. Just last week I found myself scrolling down someones facebook feed trying to work out their life and what they are up to… creepy I know. I want to hold myself accountable and stop this damaging behaviour.
I want to challenge you today; lets put us on an information diet. Only know what we need to know and be selfish for a moment, challenge ourselves and push ourselves to be better. Because by doing this we help each other.